In a recent episode of Me, her & eveything podcast, Actress Shaffy Bello reveals how disrespected she feels whenever younger people call her by name. She also revealed how she handles the situation.
In her words;
I tell them, You havent earned the right to call me by name & you will never earn that right. I have children your age, and even if i dont have children, you can’t call me by my name, whatever happened to ma’am……there’s something about this ‘hi’, i can’t stand it.
In other news, During her appearance on Mercy Johnson-Okojie’s cook show, ‘Mercy’s Menu’, Shaffy Bello who is divorced, explained she yearned to return home to a partner after all the day’s work.
“I am a one-man kind of woman and I believe there are a lot of women here to fill a home.
“That is why when I meet people or go on a date, they are women.
“I want to settle with someone at the end of the day, I don’t want to be 55 and then go out or have a birthday party and then come home and be all alone; I don’t want that.
“I want to be with someone, maybe not marriage, but a companion.”
The 50-year-old thespian disclosed in a recent interview with media personalty, Chude Jideonwo, how she left her husband and kids behind in America over 10 years ago in search of greener pastures for herself in Nigeria.
She said “I came back to Nigeria to spread my wings, I felt like I was pregnant and couldn’t have a chid, like my wings were sort of closed in, like I was boxed in.
I needed more, my soul needed more, I was yearning for more. I didn’t know the price that will come with it but I had to make the sacrifice. I paid the price of not having a connection with my children then. My daughter was 13, my son was 11. I was an hands on mother before I left them. At a point I even quit my job to raise my kids. I sacrificed a lot for them to be nurtured only to now leave them in their early teenage years with their father and then again, their dad is out there making a living and i am here in Nigeria making a living so they missed the joint parental touch but that is about that”
I left my husband because he allowed me. We divorced 5 years ago when I was 45 and that was a huge sacrifice, he is a good man and father to the children. The distance affected us, long distance relationship was difficult but I knew I wanted this, if I go back, it will be too much of a sacrifice, I wouldn’t be myself and at some point i will resent him so I had to focus on what I wanted. I don’t regret the decision I took.”
When asked how she handles being judged over the decision, Shaffy Bello responded saying; “I judged myself but I thank God he did it for me this way, because it is better for me. You see, I don’t care much what people say about me, but I care more about my children and close knit family.”
She added that she’d love to give love a chance again . “Yes, I will. I love marriage and marriage at this age for me is gonna be sweet, no babies to nurture just enjoyment,” she said.